The 7 parenting skills I developed by being a gamer

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Shrugging Off Critics and Their Unwanted Advice

I’m convinced the moment you become a parent you gain an invisible bulls-eye for unwanted advice and criticism. I am all about useful, helpful, and constructive advice, but useless and hyper-critical advice from random strangers or even people you know? No thanks, mate.

Once I was walking towards my daughter with a bag of chips I was snacking on in hand. Someone told me, “Don’t feed that baby chips!” The joys of parenting! Thankfully, due to countless backseat gamers, I know how to shrug off this sort of uninvited backseat parenting.

The above story is probably also familiar to anyone who has ventured into the realm of online multiplayer. How many times have you been minding your own business fulfilling the role of your character only to receive criticism? “Why are you going top with Jinx?!” “Don’t use your abilities yet!” "Don't heal that baddie!" And so it goes.

While some of the things said online might be more akin to harassment and bullying (which we will get to), a lot of it is in a similar camp to the unwanted, not very helpful advice. By being constantly exposed to it, you learn how to deal with, ignore, deflect, or whatever it is you do. The important thing to remember is to not let it get you, either when playing games or parenting.    

Published Jul. 20th 2015
  • Larry Johnson
    Contributor
    Since I was a parent before commercial video games were available, I missed out on this benefit, and used the free range chicken parenting method: feed the kids, be nice to them, and let them wander around. Your points are well taken, though, and if my fortysomething offspring, who are lifetime gamers, ever have children, I'll send them a link to this article.
  • The Soapbox Lord
    Featured Contributor
    The free-range method is an interesting one. I can see some of the pros of trying that method.

    Glad you liked it!
    Thanks for reading!
  • GameSkinny Staff
    Contributor
    I swear, years of planning out optimal questing routes in MMOs/RPGs has made me a pro at planning the most time-efficient ways to get chores and tasks done. Such a useful skill!
  • The Soapbox Lord
    Featured Contributor
    Make them grind for deserts!
  • Landon Sommer
    Columnist
    Teach kids about real life. Put XCOM on Ironman mode and then break the game and throw it away if they lose.
  • The Soapbox Lord
    Featured Contributor
    I think XCOM on Ironman is punishment enough no?
  • IntCel
    Contributor
    You mean.... just like you don't send your Pokemon with low health at a crocodile, you don't do that with your kids either?
  • The Soapbox Lord
    Featured Contributor
    Wait. Is that how you treat Pokemon?
    That explains a lot.....

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